Divorce

What Is Therapy Like During Divorce?

Divorce is one of life’s most emotionally challenging transitions. It can bring grief, confusion, anger, and uncertainty about the future, even when the decision feels right. Many people describe feeling like they have lost their sense of identity or direction.

At Botaitis Therapy Group, therapy provides a space to process the emotional impact of divorce, rebuild confidence, and create a path forward. Our goal is to help you move through this transition with clarity, self-compassion, and renewed strength.

How Does Divorce Affect Emotional Health?

Emotional Impact: Divorce often brings waves of sadness, guilt, anxiety, or relief as you adjust to new routines and relationships.

Identity and Self-Esteem: Many clients struggle with questions about self-worth or purpose after the end of a marriage. Therapy helps you reconnect with your identity outside of the relationship.

Family and Co-Parenting: For parents, divorce can mean redefining family roles and navigating co-parenting challenges. Therapy supports communication, boundaries, and emotional safety for all involved.

Impact on Children and Adult Children: Divorce can deeply affect teens and adult children as well. Therapy provides a safe space to process feelings of loyalty, confusion, anger, or grief, helping them adapt to shifting family dynamics and maintain strong emotional grounding.

How Does BTG Approach Therapy for Divorce?

Emotional Processing: We provide space to grieve what has been lost and make sense of what comes next. Our therapists offer structure, tools, and validation to help you navigate the emotional landscape of divorce.

Rebuilding Confidence: Therapy focuses on rediscovering independence, rebuilding self-trust, and finding meaning in new beginnings.

Healthy Communication: For co-parents, therapy encourages respectful communication and conflict resolution that prioritizes children’s well-being.

Family Support: BTG also works with teens and adult children to help them process their own emotions and adapt to changes in the family system.

Future-Focused Healing: We help clients set goals, establish healthy routines, and view this transition as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

FAQs About Therapy for Divorce

  • No. Therapy can help at any stage before, during, or after divorce. It offers support for decision-making, emotional recovery, and adjustment to change.

  • Yes. Therapy helps improve communication, manage conflict, and support children’s emotional adjustment.

  • Therapy helps you process feelings of loss, anger, or rejection and build tools for healing and moving forward.

  • Yes. BTG offers therapy for teens and young adults impacted by parental separation or divorce. Sessions focus on emotional regulation, communication, and resilience.

Meet Our Therapists Who Specialize in Therapy for Divorce

Liz Heitmann, AMFT
Theresa Leone, AMFT
Jonathan Makiri, AMFT

Schedule a Consultation

If you’re ready to explore therapy for divorce, we’re here to help. Our therapists provide compassionate, evidence-based care in Santa Barbara and online across California. Call us at 805-636-9890 or schedule your consultation to take the first step in your journey.

Related Readings:

Navigating Life Transitions: How to Identify and Seek Support

Navigating the Stages of Change After a Relationship (Part 1: Acknowledging the End)

Navigating the Stages of Change After a Relationship (Part 2: Embracing Self-Exploration)

Navigating the Stages of Change After a Relationship (Part 3: Building a Positive Future)

The Benefits of Couples Counseling